Maybe women get more competitive when they are pregnant. A 'survival of the fittest' thingy.

I have friends who are pregnant at this same time as me, so we do discuss issues such as nutrition and how our foetuses are developing. I've come to realise that one big insecurity that mummies-to-be have, is that their foetus is not growing enough.

That is understandable, cos if the baby comes out too small or malnutritioned, it will have an impact on their future health. Not to mention incur a really high bill due to their NICU stay.

In my second trimester, I used to be paranoid and worry all the time about my tummy being too small. Whenever we pass another pregnant lady on the streets, I would ask Hubby, "Who wins?" i.e. whose tummy is bigger. My paranoia only ceased when his answer began to be "You", as my tummy grew exponentially.


Now, it feels (and unfortunately also looks) like a huge watermelon, so much so that instead of wondering if it's too small, I wonder when the baby will finally be willing to come out! Can't wait to be able to breathe properly again.

It just miffs me that during my conversations with other first-time preggies, some of them insist on putting me down to elevate themselves.

I share that my tummy is too big for my comfort, and they say "No lah it's small." I ponder aloud if a dimple pillow will work to prevent flat head, and they laugh at me condescendingly.

Hello, it's not like you've been through it already and know better than me. If I'm feeling a certain way, it's not up to you to decide whether it's valid or not. Cos it is indeed how I am feeling.

Some who have already had children also tend to talk-down and give instructions in an abrasive way. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt --- that they are trying to be helpful. Maybe when one becomes a mother, a nagging and no-buts tone creeps into the voice naturally!

Labels: Cynic In The House, Pregnancy